The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed Reviews

• Interesting view... difficult effectivity

  
  By A2X38WIBVO83SK on 2007-02-13
  Certainly, the neatness & careful order of the pick up is fully explained in the so expected Mystery's book (there are many interesting observations and social dynamics views). However, having experienced it a few years ago by myself, and after coming up with my own way of seducinig women, which is more direct, simpler and more natural, I see this now as a very complex dating manual.
  
  What I mean is that the 'venusian artist' (as Mystery calls) who really wants to improve his skills with the opposite sex will need lots of time, motivation, encouragement and willpower to keep going out 4 times a week to nightclubs as Mystery suggest, and keep approaching and entertaining groups and groups of people until he 'becomes good' (which still doesn't mean he will get laid). And let's be honest, most guys out there don't want to become a pick up entertaining machine. They just want to get their booty call once in a while.
  
  People have been mating for millions of years without these kind of things and many great ladie's men have been enjoying their success without doing these kind of advices, actually by being more direct and persistent. The truth is that there's really no method, only what works for specific guys in specific places and time, with specific types of girls (actually it is called Mystery's for a reason). Obviously any shy and unskilled guy will become good at meeting women by going out a lot and becoming more social, it is no secret! Flirting is no rocket science, but if you still want to enjoy the 'game' as they call it, and want to explore the method for yourself, read the book and try it for yourself.
  
  Just please don't become one of these guys who have spent thousand dollars on workshops, seminars, books and tapes and still don't get laid because they think they still need the 'ultimate secret formula'. There's none. The problem I see in mystery method is that the author has tried to make all this mating thing as a science and people get lost in the process instead of enjoying a normal interaction with the opposite sex ("Give me more routines. I need a new 'opener'. I still need to 'practice' my negs" etc. etc).
  
  Whatever 'method' you use, it will work if you just grab your balls and talk to the women you are really attracted to. Just don't expect miracles of the 'I-Can-Get-Any-Girl' type. Some will want to have sex with you, some others not, no matter what you do. Just find out which ones are the willing ones to share orgasms with you. That's reality. Enjoy.
  
  

• Excellent, if dry

  
  By A2U2PC3GAH2914 on 2007-03-08
  You should read "The Game" by Neil Strauss first - Neil's book is a very entertaining read. This book is a textbook, pure and simple. The information is outstanding, but it's not meant to be entertaining, just informative. The book is not hard to understand at all, if you've read "The Game" first.
  
  For those who say "Act naturally and practice, you don't need advice books", everyone can benefit from coaching. Even Michael Jordan acknowledged how coaches helped his basketball game.
  
  In response to the reviewer that compained about PUA's manipulating females, women have men beat in the manipulation game by a country mile. Women manipulate to obtain money and resources for men, and there are entire industries devoted to it (women's magazines, clothing, makeup, plastic surgery, etc.). The PUA community is only an attempt to level the playing field.
  
  

• Not just for pick up artists

  
  By A135Y35RRGHY3G on 2007-03-18
  This short book is about being persuasive and asserting influence. If you peel away the title,though, it could be about marketing and closing any sale: don't be needy; be mentally able to walk away from any deal; understand the value of having a high social proof; invest others in you; develop a process, not a one liner. It has some good stuff about how our brains are wired and why. And, having read Strauss's book, I believe that Mystery and his method works for a PUA but it sounds like a lot of work, which maybe why he claims that there is only 4 to 10 hours between meeting and congress. The book is well written and makes good use of charts, although the bullet points are overdone---like apricot jam spread on toast, a little can go a long way. A book that anyone who persuades for a living should ,well, pick up.
  
  

• Informative, but It won't make you happy...

  
  By A2V69WVX5K1CHO on 2007-09-28
  I'll start off saying that this book is worth reading because it will teach you about people, both men and women. Any book that is ranked #27 at amazon that is about THIS topic is obviously special. There are many books that promise guys sex with beautiful women, but few make it in the top 10000, let alone the top 100. What makes this one different?
  
  I think because it explains how mating in human beings works in a progression and from an evolutionary psychology standpoint, while at the same time applying it to the bar/club/party scene.
  
  The idea is this: High quality women look for high quality men. They won't have sex with you until they see you as high quality. This means you either have to actually BE high quality, or you have to give the illusion of being high quality. This book teaches you to mostly do the 2nd, not the 1st.
  
  Peacocking, memorizing canned material, learning palm reading and magic tricks, pretending to have lots of friends and women, telling fictional stories as the truth, these things don't make you higher quality. They only create the illusion. This makes sense, after all, the author is a professional illusionist.
  
  If you want a higher-quality woman LONG TERM, make yourself higher quality. This book mostly teaches you how to fake it long enough to get them into bed.
  
  This method, if followed diligently and practiced A LOT, may get you in bed with some 10s. But it won't last because eventually the real you and the real her will surface and there will be no more game, just an awkward incompatibility.
  
  I would much rather be with a 7 who is a good person, intelligent, and loyal, than a 10 who is spoiled, thinks the world owes her a living because of her beauty, and will soon cheat on you (and how could she not, she has male-10s offering her sex 24/7 - are you THAT great she would turn them all down?).
  
  If you want sex in a relationship that will make you happy, it will probably be with someone who is about as good quality as you are. That is the only way you will both appreciate each other long term and stay loyal to each other.
  
  

• Bad Advice For Nice Guys

  
  By A2USUZFTXQKS67 on 2007-08-10
  I can't believe how many guys are buying this book or these books in general. The advice, like "negging" is horrible. If you're a nice guy trying to learn about women, please don't read this book. It will turn you into a creep that makes you walk around, talking about women as "targets" and rating them "7's", "8's" and other insulting numbers. The advice is sophmoric and insulting to women and really to men, too. There's nothing in this boring read that matters, like a discussion of timing or paying attention to women. It doesn't talk about anything except pushing a continuous approach. No matter what the woman says, no matter what she does, even if she's not interested, it tells you to just keep pushing. My friends and I have had guys bounced out of bars for not leaving us alone on more than one occassion. Some of them claimed to be pick-up artists. I didn't know what that meant until I read The Manual and God is a Woman: Dating Disasters and Amazon started pushing pick-up artist books on me because of those reads.
  
  The problem with those "pua" guys wasn't that we didn't like them, at least at first; it was because they just ignored most of what we said and kept very obviously using techniques they had learned, like negging. It became very obvious very quickly that they weren't the least bit interested in us, just sex. I could have told them I was from the planet Xeron, here to eat human brains, and they wouldn't have even heard me, they were so busy working their "game." I asked one of them a question and he completely ignored me, instead deciding it was time to neg me. This is what he said about the mole on my cheek - "Some guys don't like a mark like that and consider it a disfigurement. I think it's sexy." Okay... what does that have to do with what I just asked??? Pay attention to me! When we asked them to go away because we were tired of them, they kept coming. We had them bounced.
  
  This book is all about tricks. Do you really expect to get good advice from a guy who wears an ugly hat just so he can use it all the time to put on a woman's head in order to get her to follow him, if nothing else to return the hat? I'm not kidding, he does that! That's his advice! Ridiculous. I know he's had that hat thrown in his face, even if he doesn't admit to it.
  
  Women want nice guys, we really do. Don't use tricks. Instead, learn to pay attention to us, find out if you really like us, and learn how to time your compliments - there's no reason to neg! If you want help and good advice, two really good books are God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters and The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top. They give advice to both men and women about getting comfortable with each other, not a bunch of worthless tricks. The author of 'God' wrote "get comfortable with women, not your game" in a recent ezine article and his book. That is the best advice you'll ever get.
  
  
  
• Great dating analysis and advice
  By ABBYCOKQI3DHO on 2007-05-28
  I recently finished Neil Strauss's bestseller, and found out that Mystery finally came out with his book. I had picked up a copy of Mystery's internet series called the Venusian Arts last year, and just got through reading the Mystery Method. Erik certainly has devoted more time than anyone in analyzing what works and doesn't work with women. This is easily the best instruction manual available for men, particularly men who are unable to get their nice guy image out of the way.
  
  You should also buy The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, to see how the Mystery Method tools of the trade work in action. To complete your library, pick up the best seller by Dr. Tate, The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho, for great dating advice, as well as an asset protection guide to protect your assets from divorce.
  
  
• If Mystery can't help the guys on his show, how will this book help the reader?
  By AQMLCT9W9TBLC on 2007-09-04
  As someone who has been in "the community" for 10 years, I bought the book out of curiousity from seeing his "PUA" show on VH1
  
  After several episodes of the TV show, none of the guys, even the better looking guys, have managed to "F" close any girls or kiss close or "number" close any girls which would be described as "beautiful"
  
  So if these guys who are getting hands on training from Mystery and his tops students, and are studying this material night and day and are not "getting beautiful women into bed" as the cover of the book promises, then what can you expect from reading his book and practicing on your own, without Mystery to give you instant critque and feedback like the guys on the PUA show?
  
  Personally, I have met Mystery and like him, but his "Method" is more hype and hope than anything of substance.
  
  Also, it is based on using dishonest tactics, like asking girls questions (opinion openers) that you don't have the slightest care of what the answer is just so you have an excuse to talk to them, using "False time constraints" in order to create the impression that you will soon be leaving in the hopes that they will want you to stay, Fake "Accomplishment openers" that build up your wingman, and other dishonest methods to "DHV" (Demonstrate High Value) to a woman or group of people.
  
  What kind of relationship are you going to have with any woman of substance when it is all based on lies, tricks and gimmicks?
  
  None. That's what kind.
  
  These tactics and tricks work on insecure, low self-esteemed, liquored-up club girls who hook up with different guys weekly, but that's about it.
  
  Once the mask of tricks and gimmicks is removed, the "AFC" still exists underneath it all, and any woman of worth will easily see right through it.
  
  Instead of learning a bunch of tricks and tactics and gimmicks that every "HB" will have heard and seen a dozen times in the next few months, learn and work on becoming the type of Man that Women will naturally be attracted to.
  
  Be a Prince, her Knight in Shining Armor and not a (Peacocking) Jester.
  
  Becoming a Man of true "High Value" is much harder work than using shortcuts and tricks and gimmicks to give the illusion of being a Man of "High Value", but guess which way is far more rewarding, and is so in all aspects of your life?
  
  
• THE JIG IS UP!!!
  By AQ5WON0X3UA7I on 2007-08-10
  It has to be said, guys; WOMEN CAN READ! And we're reading these male dating guides faster than you are and we know all the tricks. Play them and you'll be labeled a loser before you get to flash that charming smile.
  
  I have a college-age daughter and she and her friends have a collection of these books (The Game, Mystery Method, PBDG, etc.) that they pass back and forth and laugh about, belittling guys they've caught in the act of trying to employ what they've read. It's kinda sad.
  
  And worse, every women's talk show has turned these books inside out. Any woman with a television will spot the act and you may lose out on a promising encounter.
  
  Go back to being yourself. You're a lot more attractive than you think!
  
  
• Accelerate your game with the master
  By A2JZOECFUH2BSX on 2007-04-14
  The digital era of Casanova wannabes spawned one Erik von Markovik into fame as the illustrious Mystery, the teacher and leader of the lady killers. A dating consultant who holds high dollar seminars and real time practice in the field, Mystery has written what is revered in the online community as the seduction bible. It contains explicit descriptions of his techniques, jargon, lines, approaches, and everything under the sun to attract and pick up women. The result of mastering the skills is creating instant physical and emotional attraction in the all-important first 30 minutes of social interaction with a new target. (babe). He then walks you through the steps all the way to the close. Whether your pursuit of women is your destiny, or a part-time sport, this is a college course you must take.
  
  If you look above, Amazon recommends maybe ten books in this genre. I recommend picking up the best three. Along with this one, make sure you get The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. This is a fascinating journey by an author with marginal skills with the ladies (despite fame), who sets out on a life changing mission to master picking up women using the Mystery Method. The characters are philanderers, gigolos, wannabes, braggarts, and every dysfunctional category in between. Their quest is obvious, and thrust in your face; to sleep with as many beautiful women as possible. The author Strauss has written several best sellers, as well as for Rolling Stone, and literally has no competition when it comes to spinning tales of this type.
  
  The other thought provoking mindbender that catapults your hooking up skills is The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho. This is a devious sexual persuasion guide for hooking up, written by a psych doc who cruised the nightclubs with great success for decades. It also contains an asset protection guide to set up pre-marriage to shield you from divorce. Get these three, and get ready to laugh and learn. Really interesting books.
  
  
  
  
• No Fun
  By A2961UCC2IHZSM on 2007-03-10
  This book is no fun. I don't mean it's dull, as other reviews mention, (although it is), I mean it's no fun. Meeting women, dating, getting laid, it should all be fun. There is an excitement when meeting a woman, when you find she's interested, when you get together with her for the first time. It's fun to go out and try and exciting to be successful. The author has created such an analysis with detailed terms that he's taken away all the fun. He's too caught up in the technique and terminology to enjoy himself. He just goes through the motions mindlessly. Yes, some of the information will work. But going out working your "negging" every night to get good comes at a great cost; you'll forget why you were doing it to being with. To be successful with women you need confidence, a sense of humor, to be able to relax enough to listen, and to know when to make a move ("close".) "Mystery Method" doesn't give you the tools to develop those skills. Instead it gives you tricks to use. It's like the difference between understanding Shakespeare and just memorizing all the lines. See for yourself. Check out the PUA message boards. There's all kinds of questions that go back and forth. Some guy's teacher is an 8, should he use the usual technique? Should he "neg" her? Another guy asks if he is negging too much. If these guys were really given the proper tools, they wouldn't have to come back for answers to questions. "Mystery Method" doesn't give guys a skill, it gives them a crutch. It's never a good idea to rely on a crutch. I hate to mention another book on a book's site but other people have here and I have to agree; "God is a Woman: Dating Disasters" is the book, because it does give you tools to develop the skills I just mentioned.
  
  
• Why I would Pass on the Mystery Method
  By A1CKRENM0F4PQJ on 2007-02-26
  I know two men who have taken the workshop, read the book, and have tried everything Mystery suggests. It doesn't work. Mystery suggests in this book that a man has to diminish a woman, raise his value, then make her feel comfortable in order to have sex with her. My favorite part is the technique to overcome Last Minute Resistance, and that is to basically pressure a woman to have sex with you by making her feel unwanted. (Ignore her until she puts out-In my words)
  
  This book is Fools Gold. You might be able to land a woman or two with low self-esteem, but that might not be a woman you are going to want to be around.
  
  This Mystery Method has the same validity as the guy with Question Marks on his Jacket running through Washington DC talking about his book on how to Make Millions from Government Grants.
  
  There are three books that will tech you everything you need to know to meet and attract women. 1) the Art of Seduction: by Robert Greene: It is some College Level Reading, but well worth the time you put into it. 2)Irresistible Attraction: by Kevin Hogan and Mary Lee Labay: It provides a scientific explanation about why some people are charismatic. 3) God is a Woman: by Ian Coburn: A non-B.S. account of his approach to women, why they rejected him, and how he was able to be more likable to women.
  
  I personally like God is a Woman the best. The author walks the reader through what he did, the lessons he learned, and what he had to do in order to attract women.
  
  
• Destined to be a classic
  By A4YR4JKD0CV6U on 2007-03-31
  This is the latest and greatest in the PUA genre, writing by a well-known seminar king in the pick up arena. The book contains portions of his videos and Venusian series if you're familiar with it, and is packed with plenty more new content. Erik is well-known for having coined a lot the phrases in the PUA community, and is definitely not a poser or keyboard jockey. The guy has tested and perfected everything you read here (often in front of his students) in the major celeb poser clubs in LA. He's the most aggressive and effective user of the information, and literally has so much balls and practice his successes can be compared with anyone.
  
  Every guy can learn something from this book, not to say that every guy will be able to translate the language into actual success. This is written for guys who already have it going on, and are either bored or looking for that added edge. About the only thing missing here is some personality and wit, as it reads a bit like an encyclopedia. He takes it that serious.
  
  You should couple this with two books. The Game, which is a story of a geek turned PUA stud. He learned first hand from Mystery, and tells great tales of slowly mastering the skills that are detailed in the Mystery Method. One thing about this guide, Mystery's techniques are primarily for quickie pickups with nightclub girls, and/or in general low self-esteem and easy girls. As you know, this is just a small dissection of available women.
  
  For skills with the rest of the ladies, I'd also recommend The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho, by Dr. Tate. This is a hilarious guide written by a charismatic, mildly devious, womanizing psychologist. It covers speed seduction techniques with a dozen different female personality types, and details numerous role-playing pick up scenarios. It includes an asset protection guide for potential grooms to setup pre-marriage. With these three books, you are armed and ready to take on anyone.
  
  
  
• Advice for Shallow Women
  By A26HZQMR43W5ZQ on 2007-03-04
  This book has good advice for guys looking to pickup shallow, vain women, no doubt, like the girls you meet at clubs, who don't even head out until 11pm, or the girls you might meet at a celebrity fashion party. These are the places where Mystery seems to do all his "hunting." I haven't been to a club in years, so there's not much in here for guys like me. If you want great advice on meeting all types of women, including vain, shallow women, a really good book is "God is a Woman: Dating Disasters." It's the book you want. Don't buy this book without buying it, it will really add to your game. Trust me. It is a must-read for guys trying to figure out women and navigate their way through the world of dating. My full review is on the page for "God is a Woman," which is also an easy-read and very entertaining. Mystery's book is sometimes difficult and desert dry.
  
  
  
• A creepy book
  By A1HL84KOAB32ZI on 2007-05-03
  The author tells readers how to SCORE! with BEAUTIFUL! women. He describes all kinds of cold, calculated methods for manipulating women who are probably not too bright or too sober. He even explains how to keep pushing the woman to have sex with you after she decides she doesn't want to. The author's picture is on the inside back cover. He is wearing a big fuzzy pimp hat, more jewelry than your average woman wears on a date, and dark fingernail polish. He is hiding half his face with his hands. Hmmm...maybe he is ashamed of his reptilian lifestyle and this crass effort to promote it?
  
  
• Fun for the feeble minded
  By A355NZ7TA09N41 on 2007-03-22
  I truly feel a bit sorry for any man over the age of 14 who has to resort to reading a book like this. Books that make such claims as, "you don't have to be rich or good-looking to get any woman that you want," or that there is a definite technique that will work to pick up any woman, is just utter nonsense, and occurs largely in the minds of the writers of these types of books. I recall watching one of these self-appointed experts, Ross Jeffries, attempt to hypnotize a woman on a TV show years ago. The woman responded to his "technique" by slapping him on the face and calling him an idiot.No woman with half a working brain would be impressed by the trash written in these books. The only true "secrets" involve having enough self-confidence to be able to converse intelligently, dressing well and looking clean, and also having a large bank account will likely provide access to many beautiful women. That's the utter truth. Forget the "technique" books, they are pure fiction.
  
  
• Interesting, but not the best out there...
  By A16MNOXO3JZHHQ on 2007-04-25
  So I'll admit I didn't read this particular book, but I pored through Mystery's website and learned everything about this guy I could from every blog and webpage I could find. Why? I needed help and wanted to decide which "method" to invest my dollars into. And Mystery was one of two powerhouses that I was deciding between.
  
  And then I realized that Mystery presents a sort of game plan that seems to partially dehumanize women and objectify them, and requires you to do things that you (or at least I) don't really want to do. Also, I didn't want to be following a chart of steps to follow.
  
  So I ended up with David DeAngelo. What I liked about his program is his emphasis on being authentic, respecting women, and his goals to transform yourself into somebody that automatically attracts women, rather than learning tricks to seduce them. It is deep--I'm going through an 18 hour CD marathon right now that goes into all sorts of evolutionary mating psychology, self-transformation exercises, and female psychology. It's more like hiring a therapist than learning techniques, but it's working amazingly well, and you learn to internalize everything rather than memorizing steps. And the whole process is designed it a way that fully respects women as people that you may eventually want to spend the rest of your life with. And a lot of the material is even spilling over to help me at work and in the rest of my life.
  
  So in short--Mystery teaches you quick tricks to "get laid". And from what I've seen, it's very effective at that. But David Deangelo teaches you how to become the sort of guy that women are attracted to even when you're not trying. Basically it's a choice between learning how to seduce women, or how to subconciously attract women. And even thought it's more work, I'd rather learn the art of genuine attraction.
  
  
• Must own
  By A34KFAUWLJU48M on 2007-07-01
  The Mystery Method is a very well-thought out and presented guide for flirting and creating sexual curiosity and interest in women in the first five minutes. It kind of feels unusual reading these pick up guides, by since they are so popular I bought a few to see what they are all about. This book is very easy to find the lessons, as it's written almost in textbook fashion. Very compelling and fascinating material. You will immediately see things you are doing wrong, and how to correct them. After all, if you can't push a woman's buttons to start with, the only way to attract them is purchasing their attention, which is an expensive hobby that caters to predatory women you can't trust for a minute.
  
  Of the other books, I would couple this with The Game, which is the Mystery Method in action in a fantastic story line. Also, you should pick up The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho which covers techniques after the first 5 minutes, ie, more in depth speed seduction psychology covering dating time management, and subconsciously attracting women for the longer term. It includes an asset protection guide to set up before marriage, which is invaluable.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
• Anybody who ridicules this book obviously has no REAL field time or experience what so ever.
  By AETY9XVE9WQHS on 2007-02-27
  This book wasnt made for a specific type of guy. Its for EVERYONE, and those of who scold the book are the same ones who will continue to live in thier safe little bubble world attempting the material in thier feeblest most earliest stages of improvement, fail, and wind up casting undeserved stigmas to the book.
  Saying its "fools gold" and such. Im actually glad they think of it as such, because while they're at home doing thier ritual one-handed porn surfing exercises, we're out in the real world reeping the real fruits of our efforts and pleasing women like they never dreamed possible.
  This book goes beyond knowledge and fabricated routines or fine tuned social dynamics. BELIEF is what makes the material work. Some guys just dont have the motivation or the will for it, and never will. Its that simple.
  TMM is one of - if not *thee most powerful seduction reference tools in the world. For people recommending "art of seduction" sure there are lessons to be learned by it, but practically speaking the book is useless.
  The concepts are logical. But it lacks ORDER, there is NO AGENDA to it.
  If your gonna take info from anyone, take it from someone who has sweat and bled in the field, not someone like Robert Greene.
  You must learn to distinguish between a professional writer (green-aka keyboard jockey) and mystery, a professional *liver and seductionaire. Someone who has real world feedback and experience. Greene is a man with a pen in his hand, mystery is a man with his **** in some girls ****. Get the point?
  Out of all Mysterys contributed to the community, and from what I see and know with my own eyes. Theres no question to it. Theres also no magic book. But this one happens to be one of the best and most recommended in the community, take from that what you will.
  
  
• Mystery's Magical Tour.
  By A34PAZQ73SL163 on 2007-10-19
  I have never been a consistent reader of the "pick up/player" genre, but I've become more attuned to it recently as I have begun a work of my own on a similar topic. Based on the tomes I have consumed, The Mystery Method currently ranks as second best--just behind How to Succeed with Women by Lewis and Copeland.
  
  Many of us know Mystery from The Game or his new TV show on VH1. Unlike most of the Amazon reviewers, I was not a big admirer of Neil Strauss's account, but I found Mystery to be, by far, the only compelling character in the book. He was the only person you cared about. In the narrative sections concerning him, readers become entranced. He arouses feelings within us of elation, zeal, and sympathy. He is a man of depth and vision which was a major reason why The Game was worth perusing.
  
  If you have any doubts about this offering--thinking that perhaps the 6'5" would-be rock star is trying to cash in on his recent celebrity--think again. He has produced an instructional volume of which he will forever be proud. I think that is why some people found it dry because, in my estimation, he attempted to put everything he had into this publication. It stands alone and is not a "teaser" vehicle by which struggling Average Frustrated Chumps will feel a need to purchase a registration ticket for one of his seminars. You get the vibe from these pages that he was scared to leave anything (essential) out as he knew it would be a work from he would always be judged.
  
  So much about women and our romantic relations with them is counter-intuitive which renders conventional wisdom completely useless. Mystery asks us to suspend disbelief in these pages and we are wise to do so. He analyzes the irrational process of seduction and attraction in the most logical way possible. These chapters are full of symbols and lingo which (yes, can be trying) but ultimately describe the privileged sex in a manner far superior to anything you will find in the self-help section of the local bookstore.
  
  I have studied women to a great extent, and believe that what Mystery reveals here informs us more of their group behaviors than the majority of psychology textbooks. As I read this work I looked back on some of my own romantic successes and failures--particularly those with unexpected outcomes. I came away with the realization my most fantastic memories were a result of my own--generally unintentional--practice of negging and demonstrations of value; while my memories of disaster sprung from a diminishment of personal value and a refusal to build comfort. All of us can learn from this man and we must always remember that in this game, as in so many others, fortune always favors the bold.
  
  
• TMM hands down.
  By A36BO889G8EOW1 on 2007-04-22
  In reading through the reviews, I see a lot of ridiculous plugs for 'God is a Woman' as if it even should be compared with 'The Mystery Method.' If you are of the mindset that these books are of the same genre, here's the bottom line:
  
  Coburn saw his dream girl with Bobcat Goldthwait and then made a bunch of ridiculously juvenile excuses as to why he wasn't attracted to her when he finally met her.
  
  Mystery gamed Scott Baio's date right in front of him.
  
  Case closed.
  
  
• It doesn't work in the long run.
  By A2NXWV4U2JWPTA on 2007-09-13
  I must admit that maybe 3-4 years ago I would have believed in these pick-up techniques, but now I see right through them. The bottom line is this, we attract people to us who are most similar to us on some level. No amount of game is going to change that. Is what he says in the book true? Yeah some of it, women are attracted to status and all the other attractors he has in the book. The guy is really just out there make money. He's basically using this book to boost himself to celebrity status therefore he can get women.
  
  It's also good to note that he is focusing on basically clubs and those type of women. I want to see these techniques work on professional women who aren't going to be impressed with some guy coming up to them in a pimp costume. Sure maybe if you're a stripper or some bimbo type you might be into a guy who can do crazy magic tricks.
  
  There is some truth in this book, but most of it is ineffective compared to how to really get women, that is to just be yourself. The thing is also that these guys make a million approaches with their lines. I mean I heard mystery has approached 30,000 women. How many has he closed? I guarantee like 1% or less. And I want to see these guys actually KEEP a woman.
  
  
  
• Not really being honest or yourself
  By A2S1Q6JY68AL4S on 2007-04-01
  
  The book preaches a repetitive approach to meeting women. The women are no longer people but more targets that you practice "material" on. It seems kind of manipulative bc alot of what you are doing is rehearsed. This book takes a chess-like approach to meeting women. It also gives formulas and patterns of doing things which makes the dating scene seem more like a chemistry formula than something fluid and natural.
  
  Seems that if you take this approach to meeting women you become almost robotic, doing the same things over and over.
  
  
• Oh No! Not A Shift In The Paradigm!!
  By A1O4UANZIXH4FY on 2007-09-02
  Yeah, one star reviews are funny, considering that these kinds of books tend to also focus on other areas of guy's lives, and not just the dating. Of course, some angry, bitter woman will have to come along and tell us we're all wrong for trying to get more of what we want. Hold on to your Y-chromosomes, boys, there's a battle up ahead.
  The problem that the "lifetime" crowd has with books like this one is that a long time ago, men were a sure thing. They courted, did nice stuff, and basically consigned themselves to lives of servitude and inner turmoil. All of a sudden, PUAs came along, figured women out, started telling the world about it, and now the tables have turned. Of course the mother hens are going to revolt against it, they're losing the game they thought they had down for so long. Now, men are being smarter with women, and all the other areas of their lives, and living happier without the drama, and no bitter, enraged woman can stand to let a man be happy for too long, right? Haha, great book, as are many of them! Happy hunting, gentleman!
  
  
• Hilarious and informative
  By A2GLHJ6LI8I6Q0 on 2007-10-06
  I got this book from a friend after a recent divorce. To her it was a gag gift. It took me a while to finally get around to reading it. I was glad I did. It's not only highly entertaining, but I think provides a lot of tips for not only getting beautiful women into bed (God knows I need all the help I can get with even the not-so-beautiful women), but in general for being successful with people--sort of a modern day Dale Carnegie. If nothing else, you'll enjoy the read!
  
  
• Manipulation, Control and Game Playing... How Could THis Be a GOOD Thing?
  By A28OZMGLBVPQIE on 2007-02-14
  The pick up artist phenomena and books like Mystery Method and Neil Strauss' THE GAME are appalling examples of some men's single minded focus on manipulating, controlling and using women for their sexual enjoyment. These tactics ignore the emotional, psychological and mental health of the female involved. She is just a tool... a means to an end.
  
  Neither of these works teach men how to be loving, supportive, responsible partners. The focus is strictly on how to get as many young, naive, desperate for love women into bed as possible with tricks and games. Some of them such as DJ Tom Leykis in Los Angeles go so far as to say that the goal is do and say things that lower a woman's self esteem and make her easy to control!
  
  The fact that the growth of this industry is so huge, and that guys around the world are paying thousands of dollars to attend these seminars is frightening. What does this say about what young women can expect to meet and date? And what can women do to protect themselves from these selfish, manipulating game players? You can read a book designed for more responsible singles such as "Sucka Free Love!" and learn how to protect yourself from non-committal game playing suckas like these.
  
  Women need the tools to thwart games such as these and eliminate the fools from their lives. Gaining the strength to hold yourself to a higher standard which will attract a solid man of character that is capable of loving and committing to you. Any guy that follows this philosophy is not the one ladies! And if you are looking for love you need to avoid any devotee of The Mystery Method like the plague.
  
  
• Considered to be one of the best.
  By AQSXRG4K44UI8 on 2007-02-18
  You may be reading this review just to see what people have to say about this book or you may be reading this review because you are genuninely curious about actually purchasing the book and you are looking for an unbiased opinion. That being said, my opinion is not unbiased.
  
  For your understainding, I will give you a little background of my experience with this type of material: After getting divorced (and before the book The Game was written), I decided to increase my understanding of women by learning from these types of books. I read many of the methods which were most widely accepted in "the community" as the best methods. Also, not only did I read Mystery's book, I also attended a bootcamp taught by Mystery himself, along with Lovedrop, the co-author. Hence, I am not unbiased.
  
  That being said, while some of the techniques may be viewed as impersonal, you may find the methodology useful for meeting women in bars. Yes, it can take a lot of work. Yes, if you go out a lot without reading the book, you may improve your social skills. Yet, if you also read Mystery's book, you will understand why you are failing or succeeding with your approaches.
  
  I am part of a local community of guys who do go out an are successful with meeting and attracting women. While Mystery's book may or may not be my personal favorite, in our community, and in many others, Mystery's book is widely regarded as the best book for meeting and attracting women in bars.
  
  
  
• Lots of Tips. Not a standalone material. Impractical content.
  By A2WA0PTG3D5ECT on 2007-06-19
  When I first look up for this book, I was looking for an alternate method of the Ross Jeffries's Speed Seduction course, and in fact the Mystery Method is well conceived. The problem is that this book lack of practical use. Don't get me wrong, this book explain the outline-strategy very well, but when Mystery gets to the part of showing you how to personalize your own routine (like Jeffries successfully do) the book falls out of practical use.
  
  For example, Mystery doesn't tell you how to correctly structure openers or negs. Furthermore, when Mystery arrive to comfort phase, he does not deliver his message correctly, he doesn't show you how to build comfort or how to story tell, in its place he concentrates in giving you Tips and capsular information. In my opinion, this Phase lacks of a coherent and unitary message.
  
  Instead of Mystery Method book, I recommend Magic Bullets e-book, is an improved and updated version of this method, with far more practical use.
  
  
  
• Do you have what it takes to become a ladies man?
  By A1MUCXL171CLTK on 2007-07-13
  This book is not for the faint of heart.
  
  Mystery is somewhat of a genius... and somewhat of a mad scientist at the same time. What he lays down in this book is the fruit of over a decade of experimentation in the real world.
  
  There is a lot of jargon, and theory inside this book. But it is not theory based on rhetorical questioning and pondering behind closed doors.
  
  There is a very scientific method that went into reverse engineering his method.
  
  But this being said, this is about SEDUCTION aka manipulative techniques, sneaky and often unethical methods viewed by most to get to a certain goal, that is why it will NOT be for everyone.
  
  Also, unlike most dating experts that write books, he specializes in cold approaches; meaning approaching people he does not know, has not previously talked to, total strangers. And not just 1 stranger, but groups of strangers.
  
  Imagine approaching a group of 5 men and 3 women and then being able to be charming enough to walk away with one of the women without creeping out all her peer group.
  
  That's what he teaches in this book.
  
  
• Fascinating look at human courtship
  By A2ZZHMT58ZMVCZ on 2007-07-31
  If you're like me, its sometimes just easier to absorb a book by listening to a cd as you drive rather than wading through an entire book. The book is great, and this cd also great. I find it useful to have a cd to listen to if I want to focus on a certain issue.
  
  If you do not learn how to interact with women in a certain way that ultimately leads to mating, your genes will be unapologetically weeded out of existence, and the importance of demonstrating higher value or status.
  
  Mystery excels here in the finest possible way, studying this mating ritual, and cracking open the code of social interaction and courtship.
  
  In the interests of science he has offered himself as the guinea pig, a personal sacrifice, in developing the algorithm to meet and mate with the women offering the highest s&r(survival and replication)value.
  
  Its a terrible job but someone has to do it, and the payoff is the sexual relationship, and now a method that is practiced the world over. It has taken him over 7 years of pain and torture to work out his system, and he is indeed a pioneer.
  
  Discover how to improve your skills whether you are already good, or an afc (average frustrated chump). This is one of the most eye opening books you will ever read on this topic, and much of it is counter intuitive. The good news is anyone regardless of looks or money can be successful by following this method.
  
  The terminology used is excellent with code words taken from chess, and movies. So you get IOI's, IOD's, false time constraint, wing man, 3 second rule, 7 hour rule, kino, DHV, DLV, neg theory, catstring theory, hoop theory, compliance momentum, jealousy plotlines, backwards merging, peacock theory,social proofing, lock in, last minute resistance.
  
  I am in particular awe of the compliance momentum concept. This is derived form Cialdini's influence. If you get someone to do you a favor, they are more likely to do you a bigger favor in the future. Social proofing is also a Cialdini concept. If women see you interacting with other women this raises your value giving you social proof. He uses this technique relentlessly in the gaming process, even using a woman from a previous set as a pawn to open another set.
  
  The audio is narrated by Bob Sklar, and very tongue in cheek. If there is one criticism I would make of this book, it would to include more personal anecdotes, like some of the dialog from pickup, and testing by women, and bring more story into the book. His best known student, and former afc, wrote The Game, an abolutely excellent book, and this does feature Mystery as a leading character.
  
  If you want greater success in your interactions with women, read this book. I could not recommend it more highly.
  
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• Fascinating look at courtship
  By A2ZZHMT58ZMVCZ on 2007-06-12
  This book does start a bit dry, as others say, although the message is very important. The further you get into this book though the more interesting it gets, as we see the brilliant and counter intuitive strategies that Mystery has developed to become good with women, and inspire other men to similar success by following his courtship strategy. What is so brilliant is that most of this totally makes sense, and yet is totally under the radar.
  
  Let's compare the Mystery Method to the Game by Neil Strauss, Mystery's student. Mystery gave Neil the keys to mastering The Game. Now, inextricably linked, as true friends, each has catapulted and inspired the other to greater heights.
  
  Each book has something the other has not. The method is not a story, and The Game is not the method. Between the two lies a great story, and a complete Method.
  
  You're probably wondering if you should buy this book, and what value it might bring to your life. How much is a life altering insight worth. $20, $50, $100. Can you name the 9 steps of human courtship that lead from meeting to mating? How can you tell if a woman is interested in you? How can you test her interest? When should touch her? How can you open a conversation, without getting blown off? Are you unwittingly doing something to throw women off? How important is safety and comfort to a woman? How do you overcome last minute resistance, and approach anxiety? If you don't know all the answers, then I highly recommend you get this book. The good news is anyone regardless of looks or money can be successful by following this method.
  
  Before Mystery there was no method. He figured out this whole courtship by trial and painstaking error so that people such as you and I could profit from the method and learn from his mistakes. A terrible job, but somebody had to do it.
  
  The terminology used is excellent with code words taken from chess, and movies. So you get IOI's, IOD's, false time constraint, wing man, 3 second rule, 7 hour rule, kino, DHV, DLV, neg theory, catstring theory, hoop theory, compliance momentum, jealousy plotlines, backwards merging, peacock theory, social proofing, lock in, last minute resistance.
  
  I am in particular awe of the compliance momentum concept. This is derived from Cialdini's influence. If you get someone to do you a favor, they are more likely to do you a bigger favor in the future. Mystery has developed a punishment and reward system, fiendishly brilliant for escalating. He calls this hoop theory, and taken Cialdini's theory to a whole new level. Social proofing is also a Cialdini concept. If women see you interacting with other women this raises your value giving you social proof. He uses this technique relentlessly in the gaming process, even using a woman from a previous set as a pawn to open another set.
  
  Where this book excels in my opinion is in going into detail on each aspect of the courtship, so you can identify common sticking points, and what you need to be doing instead.
  
  This book could be better by having more story examples rather than just being about the method. Nevertheless, I highly recommend Mystery Method, and believe it will become a huge best seller just like The Game, which I also recommend. If you are interested in being more successful in your relationships with women, you need these books.
  
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